If you ain’t changing it you choosing it…….

If you’re not changing it you choosing it. It’s difficult to take a look at yourself and acknowledge that you need to change things. Changing is a tough task, but if it were easy everybody would do it. The truth is that some people won’t make changes because they have become comfortable within their space. Even if that space is dysfunctional, some people prefer to stay in it because it’s normal  for them. They have become comfortable in a uncomfortable situation. The thing is that, they have chosen to remain in this uncomfortable state of being, but they continue to complain about the state they are in. Whatever you’re not changing you are choosing.Why would a person complain about a problem that not only are they creating, but they also have the ability to resolve? If you don’t like something, change it. If you’re not feeling it then move on. If you don’t change it, fine but don’t complain about it and blame other people. Accept the fact that you are in a situation of your choosing. Your life will change when you do. Some would rather spend more time talking about the problem than the solution. If you are going to work on yourself, you have to plan your life by what’s possible for you.  It’s not going to be easy but, you have to decide that it’s worth it. Their will be pain along the way, but the plan makes the pain endurable. I think that’s why they say only the strong survive. You have the strength, courage and determination necessary to become who you want to be. Will it be easy? No; but you’ve got to remind yourself that it’s worth it. Once you’ve decided what you’re going to do you have to remain focused on the finish-line and remember why you started in the first place.  Once you get started spend all of your energy focusing on where you’are going and not where you”ve been. If you spend all your energy focusing on where you’ve been you won’t have energy for where you’ going. So it’s time to make the decision to accept what you can’t change, but also to change what you can’t accept.

It’s Up To You….

If you stop learning and growing, everything you will be you already are. So if you are happy with where you are,then keep doing what you are doing, This ain’t for everybody.  You are where you are because of who you are, so if you want to be someone different you got to do something different.  If you want more you have to do more and it all starts with a thought.  We become what we think about, so what’s on your mind? If you want to be the best business man, computer programmer, landowner, psychologist, lawyer or doctor guess what…It’s out there. If you want to be the best mother you can be, the best father you can be; it’s all up to you.  You’ve got to tell yourself.. If it’s got to be, it’s up to me.  All of these things are out there waiting on you. All you have to do is decide… It’s on you.  It’s all about choices.  And I say its out there, but what I really should say is it’s in there.  The person you ought to be is inside of you waiting on you to come out of that shell. Everything is waiting on you. If you are going to be anything, you have to take full responsibility for who you are and where you are. It’s time to make adjustments not excuses. You have to decide what you want and put every morsel of your soul into becoming the person you ought to be. And I say becoming because regardless of your aim or lack thereof, we all are BECOMING something. You are either becoming closer to something or moving further away from it.  Nothing stays the same. Most of the things we want are in one direction. This is why it is very important to assess where we are so we can know where we are going. It’s important that you take inventory on your life.  Good health, good parenting, good finances, deeper spiritual connections, all of these thing starts with an idea and the desire to want something more.
You are the sum total of all your decisions to date. The great thing about that is better decisions lead to better results. If you are where you don’t want to be, simply make a new decision and stand on it. One good decisions leads to another and another.  The problem is most of us want success overnight and it doesn’t work like that. You won’t achieve success overnight, but you can get on the path to success in a second.  You can’t go North and South at the same time. If success is up north and you look up and find yourself south, all you have to do is change directions.  Most people go through life living by default instead of design.  You can live the life you decide to live. Make a decision and don’t stop until you get it.  I study successful people and I find that they all have one thing in common. The never give up. They make a decision and they stick to it. I know that sounds cliché and simple and that’s because it is. NEVER GIVE UP. There is nothing more powerful than a made up mind. We can do anything we put our minds to… So be care… The problem is that we put our minds to things that don’t challenge us to grow and become the best we can be. The great Les Brown says “the problem is not that people Aim to High and Miss, it’s that we Aim to Low and HIT. “  Aim High and don’t stop until you hit your target.


BEEDB654-B0D0-4FC6-B38A-0923846DB3F5It has been stated that energy can neither be created nor destroyed; energy can only be transferred or changed from one form to another.  So with this in mind, how are we using the energy we possess? How can we best use the energy we possess?  I am convinced that you must first recognize the value of your energy. Once you become aware of its value, you can then begin to protect it and establish healthier ways to manage disperse and defend your energy . It’s  human nature to protect what we find valuable.  So, stop selling yourself short and giving people discounts.  You have value. Your time is valuable. Your conversation is valuable. Your opinion is valuable. Your attention is valuable.  I think the problem for some of us is that we’ ve let other people determine our value. When you let other people determine your value, you end up taking whatever they give you instead of getting what you really deserve. After you’ve spent so much time settling for less you can start to believe that what you’ve been getting is what you deserve. It’s time to raise the bar on yourself. What are your expectations of yourself? It’stime that you demand more from yourself and people around you. Some conversation should be too low for you to even engage in.  Some conversations should be so high that you can’t help but to participate in.  You have to have awareness around what is going on around you, so that you can govern yourself according. Everything around you is fighting for your attention and you have to decide where you want to spend it. Some interactions cost you too much. Have you ever had a conversation with a person or listened to something that you regret afterwards? Me to.  Stop giving your energy to people who don‘t deserve it.  You have to guard your energy and place a high cost on it. Ask yourself is what’s being presented to me even worth my time? Do I even value what this person is bringing?  So we have to be selective about who we allow into our space and who we share our energy with.  Surround yourself with people, place and things which inspire, motivate, educate and uplift you. If you find yourself in one of those unfortunate situation where the negativity is all around you, this is a perfect time to CONSERVE you energy. Remember, energy can only be transferred or changed from one form to another. So when the vibe around you is negative —be still and refuse to conform to what’s going on around and instead be transformed by the new found value you’ve placed on yourself.  Determine your worth and decide what you are going to accept or not accept. Protect your  energy, your”re worth it.

It’s Not About You

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Have you ever ran into a person and it seems like the only thing they have for you is negative energy? They might stare at you funny, make unnecessary comments or just      flat out hate on you. Do yourself a favor, stop worrying about what someone’s problem with you is. A person’s problem with you is none of your business. The primary reason you don’t have to worry about it is because it  not about you. So many times a persons problem with you is a a problem they have with themselves. I’m convinced that if you look close enough you’ll find that it’s not you they have a problem with, it’s simply what you represent. Some people can’t help but to see your wins as their losses. They believe that your strengths will somehow expose their weakness. So instead of holding you up, they do the only thing they know how to do. They attempt to tear you down into bite size little pieces because that’s the only way they can take you. They look for your flaws instead of your strengths. Your light is shining so bright and instead of getting their candle lit, they would rather blow your candle out.  Unfortunately this is the way some people choose the operate. You have to protect yourself from this and don’t ever let some take away your light. It’s necessary that you keep shining. Whether you know it or not, someone is always watching you and you may be the light that someone needs to get their own candle burning. You may be the light that a weary person needed to keep their candle burning. More important than all of that is the fact that you owe it to yourself.  Their is no other human being like you. You are unique, gifted and talented. You are a one of one! Each of us is born with special gifts and talents. It’s necessary that you continue to grow up and show up. Do not dim your light so that others can be comfortable. Never let someone blow out your candle. Continue to be the best version of yourself.  Let’s get to work.